"In every situation, it is not the mere "happenings" that revoke our reactions, rather it is our perspective of the happening..."

"...We were created to establish human relations (parents, then friends, then a spouse, then children) all to model and develop our relationship with G-d..."

STEP ONE - We admitted we were powerless over [acting out]- that our lives had become unmanageable.

The Big Book explains that the reason we choose to act out stems from the initial feeling of RID; being restless, irritable, or discontent. It follows that unless we find something to substitute those feelings, we will never be satisfied.

STEP TWO- ‘Came to believe a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity’

Albert Einstein once said, ‘We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them’. Step two is how we begin to change our thoughts in an attempt to change our lives.

"Even if we succeed to stop acting out, it won't solve our problems..."

"It is only to admitting powerlessness that we are able to ultimately find true freedom!"

For an addict, trying to avoid or overpower their drug in order to "be good"- is just another silly recipe for disaster. What gives us the idea that we can beat it now?

If you are having a tough time getting to G-d, take a tough and honest look at what you are really still hanging onto instead of Him.